I don’t think Gwyneth truly understands that a new baby is coming into our home in a matter of weeks. I mean, she will do some pretty cute things like kiss my belly, point to it and say “baby,” and give it a big squeeze, but as for truly comprehending that her life is about to be turned upside down, I don’t think so.
When I asked Gwyneth last night if she was going to feed her baby dinner, as she loves to do with her baby dolls, she did take a plastic bowl and fork, lift up my shirt and try to spoon-feed my stomach through my belly button. I couldn’t help but laugh and joined in making the appropriate chewing and slurping sounds.
The “baby” must have looked really hungry…
as she decided that it should just eat out of the bowl.
My obvious hope is that G takes on her new role as Big Sister with minimal tantrums, a willingness to help with daily chores and tasks, and will obtain the ability to entertain herself like a little angel while Mommy nurses the new babe. Dreaming? Yeah, I know. Maybe one of the three?
If anyone out there has any tips on how to introduce a new baby and get by the first few months in a household with a soon-to-be two year old, I am all ears. I want to be as prepared as possible so I have minimal tantrums myself.
Thank you in advance for any tips and tricks!
Hi. I am Kristy Olsen’s sister and she forwarded your blog to me on account that my boys are 20 months apart and we recently made the transition that lays before you. First, I wouldn’t worry or project onto your oldest. She might just love having a little baby around and think nothing of his intrusion. Basically, don’t use this time for worry. Use it to talk a lot about what might change and how she can “help” (playing quietly or getting a diaper for you, etc) and what a big girl she is. Once little man is here I would try to include her as much as possible with him so she doesn’t feel like she keeps being told to wait all the time. Also, I really made a point to play intentionally with my oldest while the baby slept so that his tank was full of mommy lovin’ once the baby woke and needed my attention. I think the biggest help was that my son is obsessed with his dad and his dad stayed home for a week and poured into him as well. One more thing: the great thing about having them so close is after a few weeks my oldest was adjusted and didn’t seem to remember a time without his little bro. God is good. He will carry you through. It is a great time to practice grace – for yourself and your kids. God bless you!
Thank you SO much for your words of wisdom! I really appreciate you taking the time to respond to my post. I think keeping Gwyneth involved with the baby as much as I can is key, and making her feel like she is the big helper.
I know people have children two years apart, or even closer, all the time and survive, so I know I can too!
Thanks again!
I think encouraging her to be your helper without forgetting that she is your baby too. Very exciting and precious time.
Awwwww, She will always be my baby. Thanks for the advice!